As women, we can tend to place our emotional health on a back-burner for a variety of reasons. The problem is, that if we do not start caring for ourselves as we care for everyone else, then we may be facing anger, frustration, illness, depression and a host of other negative ramifications further down the track.
Historically, our role as women has been that of caregiver. Therefore, many of us hold an irrational belief that we are selfish if we put our own emotional and mental health first.
We can find it difficult to take care of our emotional health even when we know how important it is, because we may not know how to.
We may try to push what we are feeling under the carpet, hoping it will go away. This rarely occurs. What is more usual is that, matters may get worse and then, we may find ourselves exploding with anger because we did not extinguish the small flame that was there in the first place.
It may be hard for us to find time for ourselves with the endless tasks of daily life that need doing. But that just means we are putting a higher value on tasks than we are on our own well-being.
Some of us feel guilty about spending money pampering ourselves.
Many of us feel that we have to be there for everyone but ourselves and that the world is on our shoulders. Even if we are single parents, it is vital to take time out, otherwise we will experience burn out. Who said we need to be on call 24 hours a day?
What we do not realize is, that if we do not look after our emotional health, we will not really be able to look after anyone else in any positive way. What is the use of going into depression? It will affect not only our quality of life but also the lives of those around us that we so want to look after.
One of the best things we can do to begin helping ourselves is to really challenge our thinking. How much do we value ourselves? If we look at the tasks we perform each day and the roles we adopt, would we ever expect anyone else to be doing this without a break or reward? What is reasonable for us to do and when is it time to stop and just BE?
Do we want to live a passionate, fulfilling life and have positive relationships? It all begins with taking care of our own emotional health.